Thursday, May 31, 2007

七種會讓自己心碎的錯

一生只愛一次是幸福的,不幸的是,那些被情感傷害了的人們,卻註定不止愛一次。所以,只要你還不想把太多的時間花在失戀的療傷上,那麼你就該審視一下,是不是在愛情這個危險的遊戲裏,曾經為愛對自己犯了“罪”。

第一宗自欺欺人的原諒
原諒就象你錢袋裏的金子,每一次的給予都應該合情合理,否則便成了一種毫無價值的浪費。
記住:背叛不是愛情的唯一殺手,所有的不歡而散不是只發生在某一天。

第二宗沒有原則的寵愛
你是不是非常喜歡他?以至於很多事情都由他說了算?休息日,你興致盎然,想拖他一起去逛街,買一些換季服裝。可是他偏偏不想,硬要坐在家裏看足球。於是乎,你為了討他歡喜,或者是一種潛意識的跟從,你也毅然放棄了自己的計劃,與他一起坐到電視機前。他過生日,你精心挑選了非常有型的一款西服送給他,可是他卻說那太難看,他只喜歡T恤和牛仔。被澆了一頭冷水的你暗暗責怪自己太粗心,居然不知道心愛的人的好惡。第二天悄悄地去商店買到他喜歡的衣飾……
捫心自問:你快樂嗎?也許你覺得能夠和心愛的人在一起,看見他快快樂樂,你也就覺得很開心。可是,這樣的情形,可能短時間不會有不好的感覺,而一旦長久在一起,你就會產生不滿。本來嘛,愛就應該是平等的、相互尊重的。過分地嬌縱對方,會讓他覺得你對他的好都是應該的,反而會不珍惜。相反地,他還會反復地比較,如果有一天你沒有像以前那樣寵他,他會覺得你對他不好,兩人的不合就埋下種子。
記住:不適度的寵愛會讓你們的愛情變了味。

第三宗一廂情願的熱情
你是否也曾有過這樣的信念:相信精誠所至,金石為開。悄悄地記著你們共度的每一個有意義的日子。在相識週年的紀念日裏,精心為他挑選一份禮物,或者苦思冥想一個意味深長的舉動。而他,卻木然地望著你,怎麼也想不起是個什麼樣子的節日。你也曾熱切地邀請他一同出席好友的聚會,想讓更多的朋友知道你們的關係,可他卻淡淡地告訴你,這時他更願意在家裏休息、睡覺……
也許,有一天他真的會為你的熱情付出而感動,但千萬不要相信這是愛情,即使你們會成為戀人、愛人,甚至夫妻。這樣的愛情是非常脆弱的,他相信的僅僅是你愛他,而不是他也同樣愛你。“正是因為她對我好,我才和她結婚。”他往往會這樣說,而當生活裏出現一個他所愛的人,他便會毫不猶豫地將你放在一個從屬的位置。
記住:愛的付出是相互的,它永遠不是一個人快樂一個人委屈。

第四宗變本加厲的嫉妒
嫉妒是所有戀愛男女的特權,是愛的產物。正是因為你在乎他,你才會關注到他身邊的每一個女孩子,悄悄地拿自己與她們比較。嫉妒便由此而生。在路上你看到年輕女孩同你男友熱情地打呼你,你會毫無理由地對那女孩產生反感,於是冷嘲熱諷,甚至拂袖而去。再如,你偶爾在相冊裏發現男友和別人的合影,即便是最普通的姿式,你也會斷然要求他將照片從影集中撤出,甚至撕毀,除非那女孩子的長相實在不可恭維……
雖然說,愛人的心是玻璃做的,情人的眼裏容不下一顆沙子,但過多的干涉,有可能激起對方的逆反心理,對你產生反感。深愛他的你正是親自將他趕出了你的世界,豈不悲哀?也許你倒不是猜疑他,就是想讓他做到只對你一個人好。可是,只要你還沒有喪失理智,你就該知道你永遠不可能是唯一。沒有你,他也會有最愛的女人。所以,放寬心腸,與其花時間來嫉妒,不如兩人好好相待。
記住:正常的嫉妒是可以接受的,甚至可以是你和他之間的調味品,而一旦過分就不好了。

第五宗盲目過分的信任

和嫉妒相比,過度信任也會導致兩人關係的淡化。比如週末,他告訴你,他要在公司加班,不能陪你去看那場你們很久就約好的電影。不用過多的解釋和理由,你完全相信他的話。再比如,他在和你約會的時候,居然在一個電話線上佔了一個多小時,輕聲細語,溫柔非常。問及對方,他對你說是外地的遠房表妹。於是,你也就不再追究…… 這樣的小事情可以有很多。我們說,愛情的基礎在於相互信任,但是信任不等於放任。你一味地不聞不問,導致的結果便是他在不知不覺中離你越來越遠。將來有一天,他突然離你而去,你卻仍然一頭霧水。男人就像你手中的風箏,放得太高太遠,你還不知道是哪一天他離開了你的手。信任是一種理性的行為,它是建立在事實的基礎上的。
記住:只有當你知道事情的前因後果,你才可以作出判斷:相信他,或者不信。

第六宗不合情理的期待
他說,下個月發了薪水,便給你買下那條你看中好久的紫水晶項鏈。於是你美美地想了好幾天。可是發薪的日子到了,他卻告訴你他剛為自己買好了新力的迷你小音響,現在荷包羞澀。自然,你的項鏈也就閉口不提了。他還說,下部美國大片一來,就和你一同前去欣賞,於是你就天天關注報紙上的電影放映消息。誰知,公映沒多久,當你向他提出約請,他卻輕描淡寫地告訴你他已經與單位裏的幾個哥們一起看過了,並不怎麼精彩。一句話,頓時讓你無精打彩……
他總是不斷地給你希望,為你製造一些可以想像的快樂,於是你就開始你的等待。只是你的等待總是沒有結果,因為他總是說得多,做得少。試想一下,這樣的一些小事,他都無法兌現,你又怎麼可以相信他會給你一個未來呢?也許他會找到一些藉口為自己解釋,但很可能將來他也會有冠冕堂皇的理由來放棄對你的承諾。
記住,這樣的人是不值得你期待的,還是像一首歌裏唱的那樣:“有些人你永遠不必等。

第七宗無可奈何的忍耐
在整個戀愛過程中,也許你並不總處在盲目的狂熱狀態。有時候,你也會非常清醒而理智地看清你們之間的問題。可是,每一次,你轉身又會對自己說上一些理由:“已經愛了這麼長的日子,放棄未免太可惜了。”“就算換一個男友又會怎麼樣呢,說不定也有這樣那樣的問題,比現在也好不了多少,白添那麼多麻煩……”
其實,以上種種只不過是你在為愛他而找的藉口,你真實想說的是:“我離不開他,即使我知道這些問題也只好算了,誰叫我愛他呢。”可是,你不覺得這樣的愛,太辛苦了嗎?更何況,你已經清醒地知道你在你們的愛情關系裏只是一種忍耐。當你這樣覺得的時候,你應該可以問自己,你真的像你以為的那麼愛他嗎?愛是一種感覺,而感覺是隨時都會有變化的。
記住:忍耐不再是一種美德,有時它與懦弱同義。

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so sick

Artist: Ne-yo
Song: So Sick
Album: In My Own Words

mmmm mmm yeah
do do do do do do do-do
ohh yeah

gotta change my answering machine
now that i'm alone
cuz right now it says that we
can't come to the phone
and i know it makes no sense
cuz you walked out the door
but it's the only way i hear your voice anymore
(it's ridiculous)
it's been months
and for some reason i just
(can't get over us)
and i'm stronger then this
(enough is enough)
no more walkin round
with my head down
i'm so over being blue
cryin over you

and i'm so sick of love songs
so tired of tears
so done with wishing you were still here
said i'm so sick of love songs so sad and slow
so why can't i turn off the radio?

gotta fix that calender i have
that's marked july 15th
because since there's no more you
there's no more anniversary
i'm so fed up with my thoughts of you
and your memory
and how every song reminds me
of what used to be

that's the reason i'm so sick of love songs
so tired of tears
so done with wishing you were still here
said i'm so sick of love songs so sad and slow
so why can't i turn off the radio?

(leave me alone)
leave me alone
(stupid love songs)
dont make me think about her smile
or having my first child
i'm letting go
turning off the radio

cuz i'm so sick of love songs
so tired of tears
so done with wishing she was still here
said i'm so sick of love songs so sad and slow
so why can't i turn off the radio?
(why can't i turn off the radio?)

said i'm so sick of love songs
so tired of tears
so done with wishing she was still here
said i'm so sick of love songs so sad and slow
so why can't i turn off the radio?
(why can't i turn off the radio?)

and i'm so sick of love songs
so tired of tearsso done with wishin you were still here
said i'm so sick of love songs so sad and slow
why can't i turn off the radio?
(why can't i turn off the radio?)
why can't i turn off the radio?

Sunday, May 27, 2007

Dot Dot

Lollipop

Thursday, May 24, 2007

How To Cheer Yourself Up When You're Down

1) Dance! Put on your favourite music, turn it up loud and dance! This is guaranteed to make you feel good. If you are unable to dance, don't let that stop you having fun - sing at the top of your voice instead.

2) Smile! Force yourself to smile even if you don't feel like it. This tricks your brain into thinking that you are happy. You do want to be happy don't you? Okay then - a great big cheesy grin. After three, one, two, three, - smile :0)

3) Spend time with children. Their natural zest for life is infectious. As well as the pleasures of a spontaneous hug or a chubby little hand in yours, try to take away with you some of their joy in simple things, licking an ice cream, playing with water, tramping through fallen leaves or following a butterfly.

4) Reward yourself. If there is a job that you hate to do, household accounts, home repairs etc. don't keep putting it off so that it is constantly nagging at you. Just get it done. Then reward yourself with whatever you love, a shiny new magazine, a bunch of flowers, a long soak in an aromatic bath, two bars of chocolate or an evening in front of the tv doing absolutely nothing. Or even all of the above if you can afford it. The peace of mind that comes from having got the job done will be the greatest reward of all.

5) See your old friends. It's easy to get into a work, family, housework, shopping, sleep and back to work again routine that leaves you no time at all to be the person you once were. The funny, up for a laugh, outgoing young woman you used to be. Spending time with friends who knew the old you seems to resurrect that side of your character. You will come away feeling younger, more positive and more excited by life than you were before you met up. Go on, invite them over to share a pizza and catch up on each other's lives.

6) Take the happiness option. You have the choice whether to spend this day, which you will never live through again, in a state of happiness or unhappiness. Choose to spend it as happily as you possibly can.

try it..if u r down...It might help ya.....

WHY


Why....
I thought I found it what I want and have a good start...
But in the end, this was really not what I want to be..
I have make a wrong decision??? I always told myself not to think negative and dun regret what I had did or decised....just look forward and there is a better solution waiting for u....
I m lost again....I duno what to do...
Should I do it or not to do it..or just wait...wait for a miracle..????
Life still need to go on....duno when my miracle comess.....I m tired.....

Monday, May 21, 2007

From Hokkaido, Japan

Snack from Hokkaido...very nice...

Beagle

Does he look nice?? cute???

Friday, May 18, 2007

Teddy Bear USB



Teddy bear USB...cute..but then I think doesnt suit my laptop...Hehhehe It will be look funny if i put that on

Sunday, May 13, 2007

DimSum Place, SS2





Cherating - Day 3





Cherating - Day 2



























Cherating - Day 1